The 90/10 Principle

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life.

What is the 90/10 Principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down.The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.A driver may cut us off in traffic.We have no control over this 10%.

The other 90% is different.You determine the other 90%.How? By your reaction.You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction.Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family.Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.You have no control over what just what happened.What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.

You curse.You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.She breaks down in tears.

After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.A short verbal battle follows.You storm upstairs and change your shirt.Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school.She misses the bus.Your spouse must leave immediately for work.You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.

Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.Your day has started terribly.As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.

When you arrive home, you find a smallwedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.Here is what could have and should have happened.Coffee splashes over you.Your daughter is about to cry.You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful nexttime."Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs.After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.She turns and waves.You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios.

Both started the same.Both ended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge.Let the attack roll off like water on glass.You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!React properly and it will not ruin your day.A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?Do you lose your temper?

Pound on the steering wheel?A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!

Do you curse?Does your blood pressure skyrocket?Do you try and bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job.Why lose sleep and get irritated?It will work out.

by Stephen Covey

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Atuk Merdeka

Cucuku, Kau ingin menjadi apa bila dewasa nanti?
Atukku, Aku ingin menjadi kayu.
Jika kau menjadi kayu,
Jadilah kayu golf,
Disebut kayu tetapi besi,
Diulit Dato', tauke dan menteri,
Jangan kau menjadi kayu tunggul.

Cucuku, Kau ingin menjadi apa bila dewasa nanti?
Atukku, Aku ingin menjadi pagar.
Jika kau menjadi pagar,
Jadilah pagar karan,
Dipicit suis power berjalan,
Dirempuh diusik, boleh pengsan,
Jangan kau jadi pagar makan padi.
Cucuku, Kau ingin menjadi apa bila kau besar nanti?
Atukku, Aku ingin menjadi mangkuk.
Jika kau menjadi mangkuk,
Jadilah mangkuk purba zaman batu,
Buruan ahli arkeologi setiap waktu,
Membawa bukti tamadun dan ilmu,
Jangan kau menjadi mangkuk hayun.

Cucuku, Kau ingin menjadi apa bila kau dewasa nanti?
Atukku, Aku ingin menjadi bintang.
Jika kau menjadi bintang,
Jadilah bintang di langit,
Tiada boleh ditukar wang ringgit,
Tidak boleh dijolok dikait,
Jangan kau menjadi bintang tiga.

Cucuku, Kau ingin menjadi apa bila dewasa nanti?
Atukku, Aku ingin menjadi seluar dalam.
Jika kau menjadi seluar dalam,
Jadilah seluar dalam Superman,
Sarung di luar nampak gentleman,
Tiada manusia memberi komen,
Jangan kau menjadi seluar dalam model playboy.

Cucuku, Kau ingin menjadi apa bila dewasa nanti?
Atukku, Aku ingin MERDEKA.
Jika kau ingin MERDEKA ,
Lupakan tentang perarakan di Dataran Merdeka,
Simpanlah budget kereta berhias dan pentas lintas hormat,
untuk membeli kayu, untuk membeli pagar,
untuk membeli mangkuk, untuk membeli bintang,
untuk membeli seluar dalam, untuk membeli MERDEKA.

MERDEKA, MERDEKA, MERDEKA !!!
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-Ujang- Deklamasi di UKM pada 1992 untuk Hari Merdeka

Mengantuk.....

Hari-hari aku mengantuk
Tak kira tempat tak kira ceruk
Makin ku tahan makin tersengguk-sengguk
Sampai sakit batang tengkuk
Kalau bos nampak pasti dia mengamuk
Staffnya yang sorang ni tak komited

Tapi aku memang tak boleh tahan
Mata ku berat bagai ada yang menekan
Siapa lagi kalau bukan setan
Yang tak puas hati tengok manusia hidup senang
Aku insan lemah tak mampu tepis godaan
Sungguh tipis akunya iman

Ku usaha menyegang mata
Ku cubit tangan ku pukul peha
Tapi tak berkesan ku punya cara
Mata ku masih nak tertutup saja
Ku buka internet ku baca berita
Bertahan hanya seminit cuma
Lepas tu mengantuk menyerang semula

Tidur tu satu kewajipan
Sebelum pukul 10 aku dah atas tilam
Pagi-pagi ku bangun bila azan memberi salam
Lepas aje subuh aku sambung tenggelam
Mak abah atuk nenek dah banyak kali pesan
Tidur lepas subuh jangan amalkan
Nanti rezeki lari, terjejas kesihatan
aku ni bangsa degil tak makan saman
tu sebab bila pegi keja dengan penuh kemengantukan

apa nak jadi ngan aku ni
masalah kecik pun tak pandai nak hadapi
belum lagi masalah dunia masalah negeri
patutlah aku tak dicalonkan jadi perdana menteri
kalau tidak jatuh ekonomi, rakyat semua pakat cabut lari

oleh itu aku nak minta korang nya pertolongan
sesiapa yang ada petua atau pandangan
bagilah tau kat aku agar terkawal aku nya kemengantukan
aku letih dah mula rasa bengang
Mengantuk memang buat aku hilang pertimbangan
Aaaarrggggghhhhh aku tertekan……….

Type of Woman in Computer Language

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HARD-DISK Woman:
She remembers everything, FOREVER.
RAM Woman:
She forgets about you, the moment you turn her off.
WINDOWS Woman:
Everyone knows that she can't do a thing right, but no one can live without her.
EXCEL Woman:
They say she can do a lot of things but you mostly use her for your four basic needs.
SCREENSAVER Woman:
She is good for nothing but at least she is fun!
INTERNET Woman:
Difficult to access.
SERVER Woman:
Always busy when you need her.
MULTIMEDIA Woman:
She makes horrible things look beautiful.
CD-ROM Woman:
She is always faster and faster.
E-MAIL Woman:
Every ten things she says, eight are nonsense.
VIRUS Woman:
Also known as "WIFE"; when you are not expecting her, she comes,installs herself and uses all your resources. If you try to uninstall her you will lose something, if you don't try to uninstall her you will lose everything............

Our On-Going Test

Nothing on earth is created in vain, but rather with wisdom. Understanding this fact depends on the wisdom of people themselves. One whose faith and consequently whose wisdom and prudence increase, will happen to grasp this reasoning much better in time.

One of the most important precepts is that we are being tested throughout our whole lives. Allah tests our sincerity and our faith on different occasions. He may give favours to test whether we are grateful to Him or not. He may create difficulties, for us, to reveal whether we behave with patience or not:

“Every soul shall have a taste of death: and We test you by evil and by good by way of trial. To Us you will be returned.” (Surat al-Anbiya, 21:35)

We are to be tested in various ways. This is explained in the Qur’an in the verse below:

“Be sure we shall test you with fear and hunger, someloss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.” (Surat al-Baqara, 2:155)

Our lives have indeed been planned with the mystery of our being tested. First of all, we are being tested in our physical beings. The Qur’an states that,“Verily We created Man from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: So We gave him (the gifts of) hearing and sight.” (Surat al-Insan, 76:2).Consequently, everything we hear and see is actually a part of the test. In all kinds of situations, we will be tested to see whether we behave in accordance with the Qur’an or with our own vain desires.

Allah tests the steadfastness of the believers with various difficulties. One of the most important of these is the oppression of the believers by the unbelievers. All these misdeeds, like verbal attacks, mocking, physical oppression and even torture and murder attempts, are only a means of trial for the believers. In one of the verses; it is said:

“You shall certainly be tried and tested in your possessions and in your personal selves; and you shall certainly hear much that will grieve you, from those who received the Book before you and from those who worship many gods. But if you persevere patiently, and guard against evil, then that will be a determining factor in all affairs.” (Surat Aal-e-Imran, 3:186)

The most important point to comprehend is that all of these deprivations and misadventures are created by Allah as a special kind of test. One who does not understand this will become very superficial. The Qur’an cites a pertinent tale of certain Jews.

“Ask them concerning the town standing close by the sea; when they transgressed in the matter of the Sabbath. For on the day of their Sabbath, their fish did come to them, openly holding up their heads, but on the day they had no Sabbath, they came not: thus did We made a trial for them, for they were given to transgression.” (Surat al-A’raf, 7:163)

Only the individual who has wisdom can realize that he is being tested, and can succeed in these tests by again using his wisdom. Therefore, a believer should not forget that he is being tested throughout his life. These tests cannot be passed or the heaven cannot be attained simply by saying ‘I believe’.

“Do men think that they will be left alone on saying ‘We believe’, and that they will not be tested? We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false.” (Surat al-Ankaboot, 29:2-3)

And in another verse Allah says:

“Did you think that you would enter Heaven without Allah testing those of you who fought hard (in His Cause) and remained steadfast?” (Surat Aal-e-Imran, 3:142)

Source: "The Moral Value of The Qur'an" by Harun Yahya, Goodword Press, India. 1999.